How do you change? How do you change you? I don't mean changing something simple, like changing your hair color or your clothes. I mean changing some perspective of yourself, some habit that as of right now, makes you, you. I am not pleased to say it but I have a very hard time with acceptance and optimism or thinking positively. I tend to think more "the glass is half empty" so that when things happen in a negative fashion I will not be surprised or overly upset.
A prime example of a current situation is our house. I have written a couple of postings about the headaches we are going through with regards to our house. As of yesterday afternoon, we had not heard anything from our realtor or a lender despite the fact that both of them said they would get back in touch with us about the status of our closing. All the little things have started to built up and built up so this morning I sent a very firm, very honest, almost nasty email to both of them outlining my concerns and what I would like to happen today. Throughout this whole process I have been the one contacting the realtor, the builder, the lender, etc. Whatever I find out or set up I relay to DH because he does not have time for it during his workdays. But as more things went wrong I wanted him to step up and be assertive and be forceful with them so we can stop being pushed off. It wasn't until last night when I was talking to my sister that she brought up a wonderful point. My DH isn't like that, he will never be like that - in fact in the words of my sister, "DH is naturally good tempered. We aren't, you and I tend to follow our parents. DH is the other half of you and don't take it for granted". Isn't it amazing what my 18 year old sister pointed out that I keep overlooking?
So my question now is how I do work on that, how do I change those tendencies? I guess it is God's will and plan for me to deal with this - in fact DH and I's new church Keystone Church is starting a new seminar this coming Sunday on questions we gave to them about God's take on certain things in our life. And guess what the first question planned to be discussed on Sunday is....How to Stop Habitual Sin? Perfect timing huh? I emailed DH at work today to let him know my thoughts, worries and feelings right now. I want to be open and honest with him about it. I guess if any one of you have any suggestions or recommendations or stories on how you changed some negative aspect in your life, please share them with me. I would love to hear what others have done in a similar situation and thanks for listening guys!
(both pictures borrowed from All Posters)
8 comments:
Becky---FIRST let me thank you for your kind comment on my Cafe` post today. Second---your words... "I have a very hard time with acceptance and optimism or thinking positively. I tend to think more "the glass is half empty" so that when things happen in a negative fashion I will not be surprised or overly upset"... took me on a REAL life look in the MIRROR! It was me!
I was truly blessed by your thoughts on this blog. My sweet man is VERY easy going most all the time--I am the one that jumps to conclusions...etc.
Thanks for sharing such a honest heart! I loved it!
Becky, you aren't the only jumpy emotional half married into this family...that'd be me.
I've actually found my DH to be inspiring in terms of how calm and accepting of God's will in your life you can be. Not that there aren't times that I'd like to have someone else to freak out with me over lifes little irritations. But his perspective is invaluable. Besides, I can always find someone online to yell "so not fair!" If I really want to indulge in a pity party. Dh lets me see that there are other more Godly responses possible.
Hugs and Love!
First and foremost, pray. Turn everything over to God and know that he will take care of everything as he sees fit. It is hard to do but once you do it you will see changes in you and the way you live your life. God made you the way you are and paired you with your Dh for a reason. Just keep praying and turning things over to God
Angie,
Thank you for such a wonderful comment. I loved your post at Internet Cafe! You did a wonderful job and I am pleased to hear that I am not the only one who wrestles with this problem. Thank you for sharing that with me.
Lori,
Hey girlie! I am even more glad to see that I am not the only one in the family to be this way either. I can totally see your DH being calm and accepting. If you ever need anyone online to scream "not fair" I am always here! Hugs back to you sis!
Casey,
Thank you for the reminder to keep praying and to be turning everything over to God. I am learning about that and I will be doing that more. I appreciate your gentle and blessed comment. Thank you!
Amen sister. Nobody gets it but us, do they? LOL I try to explain what football in Texas smells like and people just look at me with a struck look on their face like I'm some kind of dork. LOL
Have a blessed day.
How honest and forthright of you. My sin is my rebellion and my refusal to be meek sometimes. I try so hard, but pride leaks out...oozes out at times.
I have to say, any time I've disliked something wicked about myself, God is the one who changed me. I’m so strong willed, it usually takes longer than the average change in normal people. I can look back now and see how it took time, but He did help me and change me.
I'm dealing with a car wreck injury, and since I didn't lose a limb, I'm probably not going to get anything. I was hit by an uninsured driver, so our only hope is getting something from our own insurance company. Things aren't going well. We got a call from our insurance company last night that sent me into a torrent of rage (in my head, heart and soul). I cussed and fretted in my mind. I was mad as a wet hornet and I have such a furious, unforgiving spirit about the injustice of it all.
My back is ruined for life. We were trying to have another baby. (I had surgery and everything looked good...then BAME...hit from behind. I don't want to get pregnant with the drugs I'm on, plus I'm not sure if my back can carry a baby right now).
My life isn't going the way I had PLANNED. Why? why? WhY? Grrrrrrrrrrrr........
I have to accept what God has planned for our life, not the plans I've made for our life.
I'm prattling on here, but I wanted to add...
This morning, I was still sad and grieving over my pour, pitiful self and all my sad little back problems and life isn't fair....*sniff* I said, "God speak to me" and I lazily and unwillingly with a bad attitude forced myself to open my Bible...OK...I'll have some silly little devotion as if it's going to make the insurance company give me some money to pay for our troubles...blah, blah, blah..
yes, I'm that terrible of a person....
I opened my Bible to Psalm 25 and there it was....
Go read it.
I lift up my soul, my back, my neck, my L4 lumbar fracture, my hip, my sciatic nerve, my right leg....
Oh my God, I trust in thee...
Let me not be ashamed...
Let not my enemies triumph over me...enemies include myself, the guy with a suspended licence who hit me, my jerk doctor and the creepy insurance company....
Sorry. This should have been in a letter. You made me think about things. God bless you today. It will all work out.
Your sister is one smart cookie, eh?
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